I was born and raised in Chicago, Illinois but a large part of my adult life was spent in Atlanta, Georgia. In Georgia, I received my B.A. in Psychology from Spelman College and my M.S. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Mercer University. After completing graduate school, I relocated to New York City with my husband. I’ve spent years serving others via counseling, teaching, and crisis intervention. Because I work remotely, managing operations for a 24 hour crisis line, I have a unique schedule that allows me to care for my son during the day and work in the evening and on weekends. This situation was ideal for me, until it wasn’t.
I was literally working day and night. I lashed out at my family and distanced myself from friends. I felt like my days dragged on forever and my weekends were over before they started. I spent quite a bit of time soul searching before having my “aha!” moment. The day time was dedicated to my son, the evening was dedicated to my husband and work (and son…because parenting doesn’t end), but I wasn’t dedicating any time to myself. I barely had time to socialize because I was working when most people are out and about or I was exhausted from working all night.
I realized that I was no longer performing basic self care rituals (sleeping, eating, getting fresh air, socializing, etc.).I wasn’t taking care of my body, my mind was cloudy, and my spirits were broken.